Craving the Cuddle

If you related to my previous entry, this one might ring true for you…

What is a cuddle buddy? (As found in Urban Dictionary):

(n)partner in which one may cuddle with. Usually not in a relationship with one another, they only seek the affection of cuddling with another person

The idea of a cuddle buddy sounds so ideal. There is someone there you can show your affection to, and they areaffectionate to you with no strings attached. You do not have sex. You do not kiss. You may still be dating other people. You just cuddle. It happens maybe a couple times a month, but not much more than that. You are what most people call friends: you hang out, go to bars, chill with friends and then someone suggests the idea of going home together and cuddle. This is when you both go home, change into your pajamas, brush our teeth, and crawl into bed, pillow talk a little bit and fall asleep in each other’s arms. It is the modern version of having a platonic friend.

However, it’s hard to know if he has started seeing someone – when is it okay to invite him over for a cuddle? If he says no – maybe he just is not in the mood to cuddle that night.  Both parties don’t want the other to fall for them, but cuddling makes them feel safe and needed and wanted. Maybe there is a limit to how much cuddling can happen.  Similar to a failed long-term relationship, maybe this cuddle buddy action can become mundane if it occurs too frequently.

This feeling of hesitation to ask for a cuddle is similar, but lower level of the hesitation that is felt when asking to hang out with someone you are interested in. Does this mean that you are interested?  You could never imagine yourself dating him, but then why are you craving the cuddle.  Maybe he thinking the same thing.  Maybe he is beginning to be interested in you? Who knows – that is the best thing about having a cuddle buddy – it is the implied non-relationship, relationship.

So let me end this with saying – cuddle buddies are nice. If you have one or if one day you ever get one, there is no need to think about it. It’s just cuddling – not sex. Until sex complicates it.

Proper Etiquette

When did it become the “norm” for men to pay for drinks, pay for dinner and take the girls out for a date? I am not complaining, but don’t you ever think about how much more expensive life must be for men in the dating world than women? Granted girls have to buy new outfits, new dresses and shoes to look good for their men, but who says you can’t wear the same dress on date #1 and date #2? The guys generally are the ones who have to ask the girl out , pay for the cab to the restaurant, pay for dinner, pay for drinks, etc. This is for a very classic chivalrous type guy. This is the modern age, so it is fairly common now for girls to pay for some of the date or even cover full portions of it.

Think about it though – when I go out with my friends to a bar, it is usually one of our guy friends who asks everyone what they would like to drink and buys a round for everyone. It comes as second nature to them. This is the New York life, but I feel like this happens in most cities. Going to a bar for a drink is a standard activity and at bars, people try to meet other people. How does a guy send the first signal that he might be interested in a girl? He sends over a drink or asks her if he could buy her a drink. This is the classic first move to say “hello beautiful”.

As a woman, I believe that a woman’s wardrobe and lifestyle is far more expensive than a man’s, but their social budget and lifestyle is SIGNIFICANTLY larger than ours. So ladies, be very grateful for those generous men in your life who like to take you out for nice dinners and drinks, it doesn’t hurt to take them out every now and then.

And you thought Christmas was fun

Out of all holidays out of the year, most people would say that Christmas is their favorite holiday. Is this because they enjoy the Christmas spirit? Is it maybe the fact that they enjoy getting presents? Maybe some people genuinely get pleasure out of giving gifts to their loved ones? Egg nog anyone?

This isn’t the only that brings some joy – Halloween brings a different type of joy. It unleashes the “scary” and “slutty” within everyone. It originated as a traditional Pagan holiday full of scary costumes and trick-or-treating, but as you get older you realize it is just an excuse for girls to dress as scandalous as possible without any criticism. I would say about 70% of the girls that I’ve seen at Halloween parties over the past weekend have worn fish-net stockings, with 4in stilletto heels, skirts that look that they could fit their Barbie and low-cut stops that are seen on Las Vegas show girls.

It is sad how this holiday has evolved to become the “slutty holiday of the year”, but the boys do love it. The girls love it too – why else would so many girls dress as if they were headed to a strip club? I can’t even account for how many slutty cops and naughty nurses I saw on Friday night! Then again – I can’t complain. I too, got my “slutty dress” out of my system for the year. A few friends and I dressed as “Miss Behaved” (lingerie) , “Miss Deameanor” (handcuffs) , “Miss Chievous” (Devil Horns), and a male friend dressed as “Miss Take”.

Some of my favorite costumes of the evening were:

BumbleBee

The Classic Angels

Tits And Ass

 

 

An entry for the more RISK-Y readers…

What is it with MEN talking about boobs & butts all the time! I was asked the other day – if I liked “looking at other women’s tits or asses better?” First of all – what kind of question is this, but I entertained the question. If I were to choose between Tits & Ass, I would definitely have to say that I am an Ass girl. Not that this is a typical conversation, but I can say that I have been asked that question multiple times in the past.

It is funny how even though the Victoria Secret catalog is created for women to order online, a lot of the time – the catalog is thoroughly enjoyed by men. Not even just the lacy panties & new lingerie sections of the magazine, the ENTIRE magazine. The other day I had two guy friends sit down next to me and rate each and every piece of clothing in the magazine. They even loved the sweater section noticing the low v-neck cuts on the sweaters. However, the unanimous agreement was that “Santa’a Naughty Helpers” section was clearly the favorite.

The best discussion was : THONGS vs. BOY SHORTS? http://www.say-so.org/view/ea94i49v/
Thongs- showing more skin, under jeans very intriguing aka. when girls bend over, less the better, the string is fun to play with, shapes the butt nicely, covers the butt crack, no panty line

Boy Shorts- leaves more up to the imagination, keeps their butt looking tight, there are cute options and lacy sexy options, she can walk around in them and not feel like she is exposing too much, they seem more comfortable

This discussion lasted a good hour. Then of course, there was no conclusion. I would probably have to say lacy boy shorts would be the panties of choice. As much as people may not admit it – lingerie is a trend. This is WHY a Victoria Secret is so successful is that they create and run this trend – with the introduction of the new string bikini and the new reversable push-up bra. It is all in their brand strategy and marketing tactics. Each new line is created convincing women that they need new lingerie to keep their man happy. How else are they going to sell jeweled bras & uncomfortable baby doll dresses for $60 a piece.

Lingerie is never JUST lingerie – there is always a purpose behind it, whether it is comfort or for the sexiness.